In sleep, our subconscious isn’t selective – it doesn’t disregard what we are shown or what we hear. Spirit often choose to communicate with us while our mind is operating in this way so that we aren’t forming judgements or dismissing vital information that the rational waking mind might explain away.

Our loved ones can create an environmental setting to put us at ease during the visit, such as a familiar place or event from our past, or a place we are familiar with in our daily life now. It doesn’t matter if they never visited the setting in their lifetime, its just their way of setting us at ease.

If your dream is a vivid and positive (must stress the positive part here!) conversation with a loved one who has crossed over, don’t dismiss it as fantasy – it is real!

If you can remember clear details such as where you were (surroundings, smells), what was happening, what your loved one was wearing when they appeared in your dream, then you have been blessed with a real visit. Having said this, you must ignore any dreams where your loved one appears to be angry, disappointed or overly critical – if any negative aspects prevail this is just your subconscious mind playing out any unresolved emotions regarding your loved one during the grieving process, a projection of how we feel they might view us or our actions. These dreams are very common during the raw grief phase especially, and although they play a vital role in helping us to process our grief they are no indicator of how our loved one may view us, as there is no judgement in the spirit world from our loved ones, no negativity toward us, only concern borne out of love and a desire to help us evolve.

Only ever constructive advice will come during a true dream visit.

Our loved ones can never come to us with negativity when they communicate from the place between lives. Once a spirit has crossed over, there is no place for negativity, only love.

Dream visits are a privilege to us from those Spirit who feel you need to hear something so important that it must come from them direct. These visits may not make absolute sense at the time, nor does their point seem relevant or important sometimes, but all becomes clearer later on when you are ready to accept the information. Sometimes they may feel it is of mighty importance that we just need to see their smile or be reminded of their laugh, or the comedy jumper they wore one hilarious Christmas! (yes, I’ve seen this!)

It is important that we don’t dismiss trivial things being discussed or shown to us either, because it’s not always earth moving news or great pearls of wisdom that’s being imparted… sometimes we just feel an overwhelming surge of love from them as they smile wordlessly at us. And sometimes thats just all we need… to see their face again, to know they are at peace and will always remain connected with us until we meet again on the other side.

These visits are precious… so do take them as the gifts they are when they happen for you…
(c) Rachel Keene 2010

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