What is a soulmate?

 

The word "soulmate" is often misused to describe a romantic true love who is destined to be reunited with you from spirit in a loving relationship.

 

In fact, a true soulmate can be a mother, brother, father...it actually means that we have a deep spiritual connection on any of the levels of love, including that of family or friendship as well as romance.

 

At the risk of boring you silly, I need to explain that part.... (please feel free to nod off at any time as I explain!) :0)

 

The usual "soulmate" is  used to describe an ultra-compatible partner in a conventional sense, with whom we could supposedly live happily ever after in a state of attachment.

 

No doubt different people would have their own idea of what would constitute a soul mate relationship but I have come to understand the following:

• There is a deep spiritual understanding between the two people, a spirituality, and a commitment to allow and even actively encourage spiritual growth, which implies accepting broadening horizons and personal change, even where this may result in the two parties moving apart.

 

• A deep and permanent bond of love has been formed, no matter what kind of love, and this persists even when the soul mates go off in different directions and maybe never see each other again in the present lifetime. The bond remains and transcends individual lifetimes, so that the soul mates are destined to meet again and again in many (but perhaps not always all) of their different incarnations and very likely in the spirit world too in-between carnate lives.

 

• There's no limit to the number of soul mates that one could have. However, anyone who is jumping in and out of bed with a whole succession of people would be deluded if they thought they  found a soul mate for them, as that's not how love works ! Among most people it is common to assume that a person would have only one soul mate, but that is only a physical limitation and not a restriction on the degree of closeness that can develop with other friends and companions.

 

• Such a bond can exist between people who would appear only to be distant acquaintances in one particular lifetime, but this bond has no limits in the degree of closeness attainable. Closeness can be spiritual, astral and/or physical, involving anything from brief simple contact to physical consummation. In the case of brief contacts, or distant acquaintances, the connection at soul level would still be constant.

 

• The bond formed is at a level that transcends individual lifetimes, it places no restrictions upon gender.

 

• When a soul mate relationship is fully developed in a lifetime it becomes one of mutual spiritual development and healing, an inspiration for other people too.

So, in answer to the question, your soul mate in the true sense of the word may not actually be destined to be your lover in this lifetime. Your true spiritual soul mate could put in an appearance as your mum, brother best mate… in any lifetime!