In sleep, our subconscious isn't selective - it doesn't disregard what we are shown or what we hear.

Spirit often communicate this way so that we aren't forming judgements or dismissing vital information.

If you have a vivid and positive (must stress the positive part here!) conversation with a loved one who has crossed over, don't dismiss it as fantasy - it is real!

Any dreams of negativity or criticism from a loved one or a scary setting is just the mind trying to process grief.

If you can remember details such as where you were (surroundings, smells), what was happening, what your loved one was wearing when they appeared in your dream, then you have been blessed with a real visit.

Having said this, you must ignore any dreams where your loved one was angry, disappointed or other negative aspects prevail, as this is just your subconscious mind acting up in the grieving process.

It is a "Spirit commandment " that they never come to you with negativity.

Dream Visits (as I call them) are a privilege "granted " to those Spirit who feel you need to hear something so important that it must come from them direct.

These visits often don't make absolute sense at the time, nor does their point seem relevant or important, but all becomes clearer when you are ready to accept the information. And sometimes they may feel it is of mighty importance that we just need to see their smile or be reminded of their laugh.

And don't dismiss trivia being discussed either, it is not always earth moving news or pearls of wisdom that are imparted, sometimes you just feel an overwhelming surge of love from them as they smile silently at you.

You can't put a price on these visits so take them for what they are when they happen, gifts from Spirit.

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